Published on February 9, 2006 By Charissa Kaschel In Personal Relationships
Today is my son's father's birthday. Someone I haven't spoken to in almost a year. As I watched my son play today I couldn't help but feel a tinge of sadness. Not because I hadn't spoken to him or because he'd never seen our son. But because I know what it's like to not know a biological parent and how inadequate and unwanted it made me feel as a kid. Thankfully my son will never need to feel that way because he is loved beyond measure, as I was. But, there is still a loss there. While I am WAY over him and would never want him to be involved, it still is a loss that for some reason today is very impactful. The words of the following song by Jeremy Camp really spoke to me on this:

Gripping on so tight with the security I have inside. Knowing what is right, holding onto my pride. Letting go of the things I hold so dear. Letting go of all my pain and all my fears. Letting go of the things I hold so dear, Letting go of all my pain and all my fears. I have been brought to a place where I want to give up everything. Where all I can do is seek Your face. And my brokenness I will bring holding on to the things I deem so strong. Holding on even though my faith has been built so long. Holding on to the things I deem so strong. Holding on to what I know. I'm letting go...

It might be part of the pride in me that makes me feel the way I do. My pride was damaged, and I was hurt, left, abandoned in time of need. And while I have had time to heal, there is still pain. I can only hope and pray that my son will never feel the things I felt and if he does, may he be stronger than I was.

I'M LETTING GO!

Comments
on Feb 09, 2006

Very powerful!  Especially for someone in your son's position.  We do get over it.  In a way.  But it is a hole that is always there.  I am in my 50th year, and there is still that hole.  Thank god for my mother.  Your son will say the same one day, when he is old enough to realize what you have done for him.

Bless you.

on Feb 09, 2006
God bless you, Charissa... you and your son will be in my prayers. Keep looking to the author and perfector of your faith. He won't let you down. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))