how did it get away?
Published on May 20, 2005 By Charissa Kaschel In Personal Relationships
I was thinking today about the loves in my life. Where did they all go? How did I end up so alone with noone to turn to? My favorite movie is You've Got Mail, and today I was thinking about why. What is it about the love between Joe and Meg that makes me wish it was mine?

Thus far in my 21 years, I"ve only known one true love. And somehow, whether it be because of me or him, he has left me. I know, they say young love can be strong but not steadfast. But I think I would disagree. Although he left me some time ago, my love for him has not changed. Even in all of though horrible things that happened, I still love him. How my heart aches, even though I know in my soul that he was not meant for me, in my heart, I'm not ready to let go.

What is it about the first love that makes it so heartwrenching? Do you remember your first love? Maybe, if you're fortunate, you are still with your first true love, but I think that for the majority, we've all moved on to a greater love. Some may question, "Will I ever love again?" or "is there hope for me?"

I would encourage you that there is, in time and pain. Love is not made up of flowers and teddy bears. It's made up of hurt, pain and forgiveness. Of relationships and loss. Perhaps we all just take the wrong approach to love. How can I love you if you aren't my friend? How can I love you if I never have the chance to trust you.

Yet, there is that part in all our hearts that dreams of that fairy tale love. The prince that comes to sweep us off our feet. The one that chooses us for himself. And yet we have that fairy tale love, if only we will wait. It all comes in time."

Comments
on May 22, 2005
Nice to have you on JU, Welcome.
Tractorman
on May 22, 2005
Because love has yet to receive any formal denotation (i.e. it means something different to every person you ask), I think what you're saying is true for some people and not for others. Where does love go? It goes down the same pit that idealism falls into; the all consuming mouth, lined with decaying strands of hubris. Well, it had to go sometime, right?

Dan
on May 23, 2005
It's made up of hurt, pain and forgiveness.

Tupac: Pain is love.

Heh, yes i know what you mean. We could be sisters separated at birth. I broke with my first REAL love a couple of months ago and i'm still hurting.

All we need is time. Like you said a greater love is yet to come. We still need to walk by ourselves to improve ourselves for that person. Once we're all polished and shiny, he'll find us. Have to have a little faith.
on May 23, 2005
Where does love go? It goes down the same pit that idealism falls into; the all consuming mouth, lined with decaying strands of hubris.


loosing some of your idealism can be hard, but come on Dan, decaying strands of hubris?

Tractorman
on May 23, 2005
"but come on Dan, decaying strands of hubris?"

Okay okay... come on, I just wanted to use the phrase. Gee. Tough crowd.

Dan
on May 25, 2005

I liked it!

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